Thursday, December 31, 2015

Unity Candle Wedding Poem

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Unity Candle Poem
by Kim (Beyer) Nunneley

I wrote this poem for my recent wedding. It's lovely to honor all the names of the two families that are also being woven together. Enjoy! 

Any marriage is more than two becoming one
for we could not
any of us,
be without the holy litany
Of lives around and within us.

Today is a day of marriage—
But it is also a day of weaving.
Of creating warp and woof with light,
with the threads of individuals supporting and in turn
With each pass,
we hereby trust
the shuttle of Time
will design
a whole and rich life for all herein named,
a handwoven fabric of family both complex and delightful.

Here we weave with candle flame for
just as light holds all colors and yet is One,
so, too, does a marriage seek to
illuminate and warm
scent and transform
small and solitary beings
something somehow greater than
the mere sum of 1+1.

The first candle we light for
Ashley and Michael Young, Joshua and Courtney Nunneley
For Karen and Wes Nunneley
For Tim and Becky Nunneley and their children Macie and Spencer
For Sue and John Spurbeck
For Nathan Young
Mike’s children, parents, siblings, niece, nephew and grandchildren

The second candle we light for
Rob and Ashley Yeager and Ian Nelson
For Marilyn and Del Beyer
For Brian and Kristy and Bryce Beyer
For Gabe and Isabelle Yeager
Kim’s children, parents, siblings, nephew and grandchildren

The third candle is the loom built fresh today
But from ancient ancestral wood;
The third candle is
The beeswax and wick of
Impossible honey-flight and nodding rootedness wed;
It is both prayer and vow,
the place where the rain touches light
And creates an arch linking
Two minds,
Two hearts,
Two souls.
 (Kim and Mike Light the Unity candle)

From two families,
two individuals.
From two individuals,
A single intimate gaze
Illuminated by plain weave and light.
Lord of all creation,
Let it be.
Let it be.
And Bless it all with Thy grace.


Sunday, December 13, 2015

Beyond "I Love you, BUT..."

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We sometimes believe we are clever or practicing tough love when we say “I love you, but…”

But the problem is, most people only hear the “but”.

The phrase, in fact, is a practice in control and manipulation, a poor substitute for directly addressing an issue.  It makes full Love conditional on a set of prescribed behaviors and actions.  With this phrase, so many children (and adults) have set out on an impossible search to find the correct way to be wholly and totally Loved.

Let’s just keep it simple. Let’s just say we Love without boundaries and conditions.  Then separate out what needs to be communicated and be clear with those communications.  Love is never anything but whole, complete, and unconditional.